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KNUST Sex Tape: If you were my baby Sister

Posted in Uncategorized with tags , , , , , , on May 5, 2016 by Marian Toure
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Marain Toure, Media & Communications Specialist

I have steered clear of a lot of controversial issues and goings on in this country since I took a break from my career in media, but this one cannot remain on the back burner; it has to move center stage. I had heard a lot of media commentary on this the whole day but had decided not to give it a thought until a really good friend in high social circles in this country whatsapped it to me late evening with the message: ‘Have you seen this? From Tech?’

Then I mustered the courage to watch it—to the end … and then the second time.

My first reaction was anger and then a sense of shame … then pity for the young lady.

I find it particularly distasteful, despicable and an act of cowardice that a grown male, who has his faculties about him, will seek the consent of a female adult, engage in what seems to me a mutually enjoyable sexual act, only for him, to share it for mass consumption.

I find that it will take a man … who has low self-esteem … to think … that parading a woman’s nudity will boost his ego and self-worth.

What two consenting adults decide to do, in private, behind closed doors—tapped or otherwise—should be allowed to remain there. In essence, what happens in Vegas … Stay in Vegas! Period! Whether one has a vendetta or not!

For the young lady involved, if you were my kid sister I’ll let you know that ‘shoulda’, ‘woulda’, ‘coulda’ are indeed the best words of a fool.

Look at it this way; you have already committed the act; so saying you shouldn’t have done it in the first place, or consented to tape it, will be in my opinion, the best words of a fool. It’s done! You’ve crossed that hurdle! You’ll never get that moment back to make a new decision, so let’s move on from there. The die is cast. Now… how can we move on from your newfound ‘celebrity status’?

Mummy and Daddy must be ashamed of you by now! And rightly so! Perhaps they are Church leaders, responsible members of society, whom to the best of their knowledge have brought you up right. Your friends may be ashamed to be linked to you right now because they don’t want to be tagged as ‘porn stars’. The true friends will stick by you but they may do that in private for fear of what ‘amanfuor’ will say. Hey, their parents and family may even warn them to keep their distance.

I … on the other hand, I’m livid! That you’ll let yourself go this far!?! No matter what, though I’m your elder sister and I’ll stand by you through thick and thin.

Now… Let me tell you what I think you need to hear.

You are beautiful by all standards. You are intelligent, though that decision you made was unwise. I won’t judge you because I have been your age before and I know too well what happens during those years of your life. I forgive you for bringing me into this. You, on the other hand, need to forgive yourself too. What you shared with that boy, to the best of your knowledge was a moment of passion you would recount in your memory over and over and over again… with mixed emotions.

Do you remember Tiffany—Itz Tiffany? Another beautiful girl. She is one of our Ghanaian celebrities—she was known far and wide before her incident. Her former husband leaked their sex tape and it was news for a while, but it soon died. It passed. It’s old news now. Until yours came up, we had forgotten Tiffany’s. So I want you to know that this too shall pass.

Thing is, you’ll fall every now and then. Never wish for a smooth ride, just learn to rise up in style when you fall. But how do you rise up in style when you fall if you don’t fall?

It’s tough I know! But you have me. Take a break from school if you need to. Clear your head. Cry if you must—it’s good for the soul. Lock yourself up in the room for a few days if you want to, then come back and start over. Remember not to brood over it too long. Don’t let life pass you by. Life gives us all a lot of opportunities to do over. And this is not the end of the world. You are young and you are beautiful too. It’s not going to be easy I assure you, but I am here for you … and I love you.

When God Says YES!…

Posted in Uncategorized with tags , , , , , , , , , , , on September 15, 2015 by Marian Toure

BELIEVE ME WHEN I SAY; You can achieve at the click of a finger what it takes others a whole lifetime to achieve.

Case in point?? DESTINY OR FATE? :: A 14-year old Ghanaian street vendor, Attah Abraham has won the Marcello Mastroianni’s Best Young Actor Award at the 2015 Venice Film Festival.

He won the award for his lead performance in a movie alongside Idris Elba.

Attah Abraham with his award and some cast members

Attah Abraham with his award and some cast members

Attah Abraham who is said to be without any acting background was picked from the streets of Ghana during the shooting of Netflix’s soon to be released movie “Beasts of No Nation.” Director of the movie, Cary Fukunaga according to the Business Insider said: “the lead in ‘Beasts of No Nation’ was essentially a street vendor before we shot the film. [He had] zero film experience, little education…but he became a somewhat professional actor, which was astounding to watch.” Fukunaga added that, “his unlikely star’s name is Abraham Attah, and he is a 14-year-old who plays an 11-year-old child soldier in the film.

Abraham’s character joins a militant group from an unnamed West African country that is led by a brutal warlord, played by Idris Elba (“Luther”).”

The director explained that about 30 of the kids were also selected “and we did this theater workshop and tried scenes that were in the script, and we would improvise. The kids are fast learners, they quickly understood that the better they did the longer they stayed [ as potential casts].”

Abraham’s only acting experience could have been the war games he played with his fellow street kids in the little alleys where they lived and played.

Little did he imagine that mimicking the war scenes he may have watched on countless occasions in the movies would be his ticket out of poverty and that this was going to be the occasion when he gets honoured on an international stage but God knew the beginning from the end.

Lesson? Whatever you do, do with passion and unity of purpose. Things may be rough now but your ‘one day’ will come when you least expect it. I know so.
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Your Oppressor is Oppressed Too

Posted in Uncategorized with tags , , , , , , , on September 10, 2015 by Marian Toure
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Oppression can take various forms and it can come from different angles – from home, work, school, church, in a relationship, the list is endless.

Sometime the least of those you think are capable of doing it, are your oppressors.

Unlike those who will be very overt about it, others are very subtle. You won’t believe it even it they confessed they were your oppressor.

But there’s a theory. And I know that perhaps you’ll agree with my theory. Like a cork in water, someone has to constantly hold it down for it to remain there. A cork is meant to float on water, not to sink because its paperweight light. This means someone has to intentionally and persistently hold the cork down for it to remain there. What the person holding the cork down doesn’t realise is that, as much as they hold the cork down, they hold themselves down too. You see, you have to exert energy and pressure on this cork for it to remain beneath the water.

Whiles you’re pressing the cork down; you’re pressing yourself down.

It is only when you release it that you also find freedom.

So your oppressor is also oppressed. They may not know it but they also under some form of oppression by oppressing you.

The longer they hold you down, the longer they hold themselves down.

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