KNUST Sex Tape: If you were my baby Sister

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Marain Toure, Media & Communications Specialist

I have steered clear of a lot of controversial issues and goings on in this country since I took a break from my career in media, but this one cannot remain on the back burner; it has to move center stage. I had heard a lot of media commentary on this the whole day but had decided not to give it a thought until a really good friend in high social circles in this country whatsapped it to me late evening with the message: ‘Have you seen this? From Tech?’

Then I mustered the courage to watch it—to the end … and then the second time.

My first reaction was anger and then a sense of shame … then pity for the young lady.

I find it particularly distasteful, despicable and an act of cowardice that a grown male, who has his faculties about him, will seek the consent of a female adult, engage in what seems to me a mutually enjoyable sexual act, only for him, to share it for mass consumption.

I find that it will take a man … who has low self-esteem … to think … that parading a woman’s nudity will boost his ego and self-worth.

What two consenting adults decide to do, in private, behind closed doors—tapped or otherwise—should be allowed to remain there. In essence, what happens in Vegas … Stay in Vegas! Period! Whether one has a vendetta or not!

For the young lady involved, if you were my kid sister I’ll let you know that ‘shoulda’, ‘woulda’, ‘coulda’ are indeed the best words of a fool.

Look at it this way; you have already committed the act; so saying you shouldn’t have done it in the first place, or consented to tape it, will be in my opinion, the best words of a fool. It’s done! You’ve crossed that hurdle! You’ll never get that moment back to make a new decision, so let’s move on from there. The die is cast. Now… how can we move on from your newfound ‘celebrity status’?

Mummy and Daddy must be ashamed of you by now! And rightly so! Perhaps they are Church leaders, responsible members of society, whom to the best of their knowledge have brought you up right. Your friends may be ashamed to be linked to you right now because they don’t want to be tagged as ‘porn stars’. The true friends will stick by you but they may do that in private for fear of what ‘amanfuor’ will say. Hey, their parents and family may even warn them to keep their distance.

I … on the other hand, I’m livid! That you’ll let yourself go this far!?! No matter what, though I’m your elder sister and I’ll stand by you through thick and thin.

Now… Let me tell you what I think you need to hear.

You are beautiful by all standards. You are intelligent, though that decision you made was unwise. I won’t judge you because I have been your age before and I know too well what happens during those years of your life. I forgive you for bringing me into this. You, on the other hand, need to forgive yourself too. What you shared with that boy, to the best of your knowledge was a moment of passion you would recount in your memory over and over and over again… with mixed emotions.

Do you remember Tiffany—Itz Tiffany? Another beautiful girl. She is one of our Ghanaian celebrities—she was known far and wide before her incident. Her former husband leaked their sex tape and it was news for a while, but it soon died. It passed. It’s old news now. Until yours came up, we had forgotten Tiffany’s. So I want you to know that this too shall pass.

Thing is, you’ll fall every now and then. Never wish for a smooth ride, just learn to rise up in style when you fall. But how do you rise up in style when you fall if you don’t fall?

It’s tough I know! But you have me. Take a break from school if you need to. Clear your head. Cry if you must—it’s good for the soul. Lock yourself up in the room for a few days if you want to, then come back and start over. Remember not to brood over it too long. Don’t let life pass you by. Life gives us all a lot of opportunities to do over. And this is not the end of the world. You are young and you are beautiful too. It’s not going to be easy I assure you, but I am here for you … and I love you.

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9 Responses to “KNUST Sex Tape: If you were my baby Sister”

  1. owusu Kwadwo Isaac Says:

    The best way to avoid such humiliating acts is to ensure that such acts are not recorded at all.

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  2. Veronica Araba Brakwah Says:

    Nice one Laurie.God bless u for this.it annoys and pain me because women are their own enemies .in the sense that the world especialy ladies will go about condemning their fellow ladies if such cases come up instead of uniting and fighting against these shitty things guys do.people also forget that sex is an act between two people and that we ladies dont fuck ourselves.these guys who post such things too behave as if they were not born by a woman or do not have sisters.

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  3. Maxwell kelly Says:

    Thank u my Sist for these great peace.God help her .pls help her to come over it.For the guy .i pity him in life .

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  4. Wise words there. It’s not easy when you go through such traumatic experiences but I pray she’ll be able to handle this. not everyone can.

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  5. Sandy Says:

    Ure truly wise and I’ve always admired u from afar. God bless you. I wish to have a big sister like u.

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  6. FAITH Says:

    Words of wisdom, comfort…you said it all…God bless you

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  8. Anonymous Says:

    who leaked the tape?

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  9. efia agyeiwa Says:

    Very touching, my pastor said ”you sit somewhere to criticize because u didn’t meet that guy she met, u would have done worse”. I pray her pastors and church members will find an opportunity to help her draw closer to God and not play all holy on her.

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